When Troubled Teens Lie To You | Abundant Life Preparatory

Abundant Life Preparatory | Troubled Teens

Part II of Teens and Lying

You may find your  lied simply because they knew the behavior was wrong and they didn't want to get caught. This will mean you require letting them to identify in very clear terms what behaviors are intolerable and what the consequences will be, not only for repeating that behavior, but also for lying about it. These are two separate events that will lead to separate sets of consequences.

Drill the fact in to your troubled teenager that you have absolute trust in them. This develops their confidence in you and they are ready to spurt out all problems to you. They are secure of your ability to overcome difficult situation. Hence, they will not resort to adolescent lying.

Some experts deny that this is the best way to deal with an adolescent who is lying. In effect, it is a form of dishonesty too. The direct approach that includes a clear set of rules and consequences is always best. A good way to keep track is to increase temporarily the requirement that your teen check in with you to let you know where he or she is, when he or she will be home, and who he or she is with at the time. This improved control will make your troubled boy or girl highly aware that if they do not earn your trust, they will not get your trust.

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